When I was a kid, I collected lots of stuff – baseball cards, GI Joe action figures, skateboards, you name it. Didn’t matter what the “stuff” was, I loved acquiring, cataloguing and admiring it. Take my baseball cards for instance, I didn’t look at them every day. I’d get them out every once in a while and look them over, taking note of which players got traded or were performing better that year. I still have them to this day and dust them off and get all nostalgic.
I feel like social networks are encouraging very similar behavior. We’ve gone from collecting trinkets to collecting people. Take Facebook for instance. How many friends do you keep up with? 100? 500? 1000? Which begs a bigger question – do you even really interact with them? My gut says that there’s a small percentage of your friends that you have super meaningful interaction with, a larger group with superficial interaction and an even larger group with no interaction. But instead of not someone, we go thru painstakingly cumbersome Facebook privacy settings to keep them from really connecting with you.
The point is, we’ve become a culture of “collectors,” where we our social networks are a place to collect people. “Hi, we met in line at Starbucks.” -- FRIEND REQUEST “We spoke briefly at Tom’s party.” -- FRIEND REQUEST “We knew each other for 15 minutes, 15 years ago” -- FRIEND REQUEST
The list goes on. Now, I’m not saying that all of these scenarios are superficial. I’m simply saying that everything has become a reason to request and/or accept friend requests. In this case, I’m picking on Facebook because (in my mind) it is far more personal than, say, Twitter. If you collect people on Twitter, that’s a bit different. It could be your RSS feed.
To illustrate the point further, think about Foursquare. I get invites from people that I have never met in my life, and yet they want access to my whereabouts, email address, mobile phone number, etc. It feels like people simply want to amass avatars, to show “volume” in their friend count. Perhaps avatars are the new collecting cards – I mean, we’ve all got personal stats associated with our constituent avatars on various networks and collectively.
It’s amazing how these little, tiny squares have become so culturally important.